As school wound down and summer began…for other children it’s an exciting time…free time…fun time – woohoo NO HOMEWORK, no worries – be happy! However, for sensory kids it can be overwhelming – the changing of schedules and routines, more people and visits, vacation and/or staycations. Even the clothing…making that transition from warm clothes to shorts, ooooh my, and especially tennis shoes/boots to sandals. It’s always an adjustment period I know.
But, this year we had a rough start. Rough start to summer that is. Our 10 year old is homeschooled, he has a sibling in public school. One would think he would enjoy his brother being home all day….and he does in small doses, except it’s more talking, different routines, more interaction…he likes his bubble and his alone time, and yes, my undivided attention. It’s changed. Change is hard. It took about a month to smooth out for his temperament to adjust as he had many outbursts, anger fits, and a super loooong meltdown. Breaks my heart when he still will ask, “Why do I act like I do?” and say, “I don’t mean it.” I know he doesn’t mean to hit himself, call himself dumb, break things. I know his heart. I know it’s good. I know he’s smart.
We created a ‘worry box’. He covered it with construction paper and was content with it (Louisville Cardinals- red & white). The purpose is for him to write down his worry – place it in the box and when he is ready we pull it out to read and talk about it, validate it- find a solution, if possible….NOT in the moment, but later when he is calm and is ready to fully listen – maybe have his favorite snack or have him swinging in his sensory swing. His first one stated, “going in the cherch.” I was surprised because he’s never mentioned being nervous going into the church before- he goes practically every Wednesday evening- by himself!!! And he loves vacation Bible school – however, he said he was nervous because there were so many children and it was too noisy, too much talking. He did not want to go. I didn’t make him. Maybe next year. He is content participating in the small youth group Wednesday evenings and that makes him happy.
Back to the ‘worry box’…it certainly is a start, hopefully, to engage his thoughts and worries to a better understanding of why and how we can help him overcome his very real concerns and alleviate negative behavior. It’s all worth a try!
For now, we are steady and ready and building his self-esteem because he is GOOD. He is smart. Striving for worry-free days.